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Hold onto your N.U.T.S. Review by Eric Dormer, 08-Apr-05. This 210 book is a quick 2 hour read. Its subtitle is "The Relationship Manual for Men". It is targetted at men who feel emasculated in their relationships with women. The goal is to empower men to be strong and consistent, and to take ownership for their own decisions and behaviours, while not taking ownership for their romantic partners feelings. In this way the destructive energy that fuels an argument can be channeled into constructive growth and intimacy. It contains 8 basic rules: Avoid letting childhood trauma drive adult behaviour. Express but don't defend your feelings. Cooperate but dont compromise. Take initiative on romance and sex. Be stable and strong emotionally. Don't argue. Listen. Develop trusting relationships with other men. The basic message is self-consistent, although some experts would disagree with some of the rules. A man who followed these rules blindly might appear arbitrary, authoritarian, and not very willing to find accomodation with his partner on important issues. My criticism is that the book is filled with commercial trademarked words which are repeated endlessly and distract from the message. "N.U.T.s" which is trademarked by the author to mean "Non-negotiable Unalterable Truths" is repeated about a hundred times and the novelty wears off after the first page. Similarly the incessant repetition of trademarked phrases like "BetterMen", and "BetterMen Tools" is a distraction from a useful theme. This book promotes the authors coaching business and retreats and seminars. He is building awareness of his brand by repeating these trademarked words, but it gets in the way of the useful advice. Courts From Hell: Family Injustices in Canada Since the introduction of "no fault divorce" in Canada, the divorce industry has evidenced unprecendented growth estimated at $6 billion per year. The solution is to update divorce laws to reflect parental equality and get families out of court, eliminating significant grief and expense. An alternative to courts is identified in the book. Lawyers Gone Bad: Eye-opener will rouse overdue debate The public has always been curious when lawyers get into trouble and jeopardize their careers. Philip Slayton, a former law professor, private practitioner and law dean, is the latest author to canvass this topic with his book Lawyers Gone Bad. It's an interesting look at a mix of lawyers who are at the centre of a legal storm. The stories include lawyers who have illegally sustained expensive lifestyles, been convicted of crimes or had sex with vulnerable clients. Mr. Slayton brings impressive credentials to this exercise and what he says should be of interest to both lawyers and the public. The cases considered cover lawyers from across Canada in all walks of legal practice, including some who worked in large, corporate-commercial law firms and some who were sole practitioners or in small firms. While the stories provide useful insights into how lawyers go bad, the book still leaves many unanswered questions about why it happens. The author submits that the environment in which lawyers practise -- for example, big downtown, corporate firms -- creates a setting where they may pretend to be more successful than is the case. What better way to show off their achievements to colleagues than through their billings? This can result in excessive or inflated legal bills being sent to clients. I agree with his assessment in part, but I am also of the opinion that this difficulty is not exclusively one of a lawyer's own making. Lawyers can easily succumb to the public perception that they enjoy a very high standard of living. However, this is not always the case. So this incorrect impression pressures lawyers to create the illusion they are more financially successful than they really are, and encourages criminal behavior. This need to show they are successful also leads some to get into business ventures -- sometimes with their clients. It allows lawyers to supplement their income and enhance their professional reputation. Often, however, it is these ventures that cause their downfall and prompt them to behave badly, which leads to professional disgrace and clients losing money. The book also addresses the contentious issue of lawyer oversight. Currently, the power to discipline lawyers lies with lawyer-controlled entities, known as law societies. Mr. Slayton asks how can we ensure that these bodies guarantee fairness and objectivity? What he overlooks is that since 1974, there has been nonlawyer involvement, albeit in a minority position, in the disciplinary process. This has helped address the concerns of those who view professions as -- to borrow the words of George Bernard Shaw -- a conspiracy against the public. Moreover, the law societies are cognizant of the criticism. Take the case involving litigation against the Barreau du Quebec and Christina Finney, who sued arguing that the Barreau was negligent for not protecting her against a lawyer that it eventually disbarred. She won and that case has caused other Canadian law societies to review their own procedures. In Britain, the picture is different. The author devotes a few pages to a proposal made by a commission chaired by Sir David Clementi, a former deputy-governor of the Bank of England, which calls for exclusive control over lawyer self-regulation to be removed from the Law Society of England and Wales and given to an independent commission controlled by laypersons. There is legislation in the U.K. parliament to implement such a change and it will likely become law by the end of the year. It will be interesting to see what ramifications, if any, this initiative will have in Canada. Another matter the book touches upon is the task of advising clients. Subject to a small number of exceptions, lawyers are legally required to maintain absolute confidentiality when advising clients. This can put them at odds with what the public generally thinks a lawyer should disclose about their clients, especially if questionable conduct is involved. To use a current example, this requirement has brought the federal government into possible confrontation with lawyers in its efforts to grapple with money laundering. The author recognizes the delicacy of this dilemma and is indeed sympathetic to his profession as it seeks to do the right thing for its clients. Overall, Lawyers Gone Bad is a well-organized, well-written and manageable text that is a welcome addition to the limited literature on lawyer self-regulation. This book will cause more examination and discussion about the issue and that's a positive thing. *Stephen Traviss is a Toronto lawyer who spent 26 years at the Law Society of Upper Canada as senior counsel. His duties included advising the profession on matters of professional conduct. His current practice includes defending lawyers facing discipline matters.
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